A fallen bird.

It’s rare to see me talking about love and its concerns. It was, is, and will always be a different and difficult story to tell in public whenever it’s about breaking up or confessing feelings about someone. This is because we don’t know exactly how to express what we feel, rather than show it. The only way to prove it is to show it, not by talking but by using action language, because love is what makes the ride worthwhile.

 

The best way to show love is to show respect and loyalty. If it lacks one of these legs, it ain’t love; it’s attachment due to times or moments. And this is what confuses many people. If I had to choose between respect and loyalty, I would go for loyalty. Because you can respect someone but don’t be loyal to him or her, being loyal to someone is another way of loving him or her. Nobody disrespects and cheats on the person he loves, but he or she can do it to the person he or she is attached to.

 

So, sometimes people don’t get it right, whereas it is very simple. If you have jewellery that fits your wish, you can’t settle for another, but if you feel like going for another would be better, it’s because it is more attractive. That implies that the first is no longer enough, maybe because it doesn’t fit or you aren’t grateful for it.

 

Wiser is letting go of anything that you prioritise and treats you back as an option. Once a wise man said, ''A good dancer knows when to enter and leave the stage'' and I felt it later. Do you get this? We’re in a generation where people feel it's too important to have what they wish for but don’t want to give what it requires. Yeah, it’s human nature to like being appreciated, cared for, and important to society. But when it kicks in, most fail due to poor decision-making.

 

Although some resist, most people change whenever they meet other people. And when the changes open the door, confusion begins. Here you find people deciding to take a new path with other people but still don’t wish to lose whoever is around. Is this a sign of love or instability? At this point, we find ourselves sometimes stuck in places where we can’t go back and lose what we can’t afford to bring back. At these places we call mind prisons, you can’t think beyond a metre.

 

We have to understand this clearly. All people have reasons that vary. Some are there for lessons, moments, and seasons. We sometimes find ourselves in contact with people whom we wish to be with for a lifetime, but they are for seasons. There are others we think are there to make us believe that good people still exist, whereas there are those who are present to leave lessons. Although they leave us heartbroken, they sharpen us for the better. They give us space to receive more blessings and strength, along with reasons to fight for the right tone whenever they kick in.

 

Don't settle for better things or people if they don't face the challenges of hard times. Being right matters more than being happy. 

Author: Didace BANAMWANA

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